3 Questions That Can Change Your Life

 

If you take a look at the world today, you’ll soon come to realize that nothing is for free. Everybody who’s even remotely into business will try to sell you something — and preferably more than once.

Great promises, that will often times sound too good to be true. We’ve all been there. Whether we buy something in the middle of the night from an infomercial we see on TV, or something we ‘get along the way to the cash register’ in the supermarket.

And with that every purchase, we somehow seem to get into the automatic running part of our mind that only wants one thing: instant gratification and hope for a better future. Whether that future is immediate or a bit longer, whatever we buy seems to make us feel god… in the short term.

But what about the long term? Have you ever considered to really take some time of and start imagining where you want to be in 10, 20 or even 40 years from now? If you’re like most people, the answer will be ‘NO’.

But where do you begin? In this fast and instant gratifying time, where EVERYTHING is important and NOTHING can wait, and where distractions are lurking EVERYWHERE – I can imagine that starting to make a plan for even the next decade isn’t easy.

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Over the last 12 years, I’ve had the privilege to have a mentor that knew (and still knows) how to simplify the mechanisms of one’s life, and start taking the small steps towards any envisioned future.

Even better news: you don’t have to go for any training. Heck, you don’t even need to get out of your house to start your bright future.

In his new book “Living by Design – 28 Day Journey to Create the Life of Your Dreams” you’ll find a ton of practical and directly to use information that will help you jus start your future.

Now, I’m not trying to sell this book to you. In fact, I want you to have this book for FREE. And the best news is, YOU CAN!

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But before I go into giving you a free book that will be delved at your house, I want to emphasize the value of the 3 questions I promised you in the headline.

You see, most people, as I’m sure you know, take more time to plan their holiday than they plan their future. And if you’re going to wait until a book will arrive at your doorstep, chances are that you won’t take the time to read or implement it.

So here’s the thing: in order to ensure you that you can start making a positive difference in your life today, I invite you to click the link in this article, and take just a couple minutes to start thinking about how you want your future to look like.

As a thank you, you’ll get the book, for free. That way, those who REALLY want to make a difference in their own life, as well as positively impact the lives of those around them.

The rule of thumb is that about 90 pre cent of the pole who read this article won’t click the link, keep doing exactly the same of what they’ve bene doing, and get more of the results they’ve always gotten. If you’re one of those people, than stop reading. This is NOT FOR YOU.

But if you truly want to be the captain of your own ship, in ALL of the important areas, then I know for a fact that investing a couple of minutes in return for a brighter, more fulfilled and wealthier future will be worth your time. And again, as a Thanks, you’ll still get the book for free.

So what will you do? Are you going to do nothing, and hope for a better future?

Or are you going to take a few moments right now, and start exploring the beautiful mind you have, and all the hidden secrets it has to unveil to you?

The choice s your.

To your success,

Robert

 

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Why Personal Development Matters In Business

 

Have you ever wondered why people go to their work? In the first place, you’d think it is because they need the paycheck to make a living. Though this is true, most people aren’t propelled by money to do the work they do. It’s something you can’t buy with money.

Research show that it doesn’t matter as such how much you pay a person to do their job. There is a threshold where the quality of the work will not increase, no matter how much more you pay them. From this, you could conclude that money is not the #1 driving force behind someone’s work. After all, if they aren’t intrigued by a bigger paycheck to do more work, why would you pay them more?

The key to having satisfied employees who not only do their work in the best way they can, but keep them motivated to do their best, is personal development – the ability to grow and develop oneself within the organization and the possibilities is holds for them.

Where money seizes to be effective in motivating your employees to go the extra mile, it is giving the opportunity to let them develop themselves on a personal and professional basis that will pull your co-workers forward.

So what does personal development means within ia business context?

Think about the different qualities you have as a professional, that you can also use in your personal life. Enhanced communication skills, increasing self-confidence, the ability to inspire you and others, overcoming fear, uncertainty and other obstacles, team building. All of these are aspects of personal development, that you can offer to your employees to get more out of them.

The secret to having and keeping a high level of job satisfaction is to find the balance between what you are capable of doing very well, stretching your “comfort-zone” by expanding your knowledge and skillset, and having the intrinsic or inner motivation to do it.

For most people, more money – an external or extrinsic motivator – is not the best reason to do something when the going gets tough. It is the passion, calling or even the feeling of having a purpose that pushes them to do what is necessary.

It is the intrinsic motivation that keeps people like police officers, fire fighters, rescue workers and soldiers go back into the toughest of situations each and every time – for sure it is not their paycheck that is on their mind when they run into a burning building or risk getting shot in the line of fire.

Take a look at how much possibilities your organization has to empower their employees to grow with the company. After all, it’s your employees that are your most valuable assets. Better make sure your assets keep being your assets.

So here’s today’s question to you. What elements of personal development do you use or require in your work, and how does (the lack of) it impact your company?

Leave your comment down below, and I’ll be sure to get back at you.

To your success,

Robert

 

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Perception is projection. Or is it?

 

We all do it: you meet someone, and in the first few seconds you know if you like the person or not. But based on what do we make this decision?

The answer is projection. Based on our experiences we project what we know of other people how we want to feel about the person standing in front of us today.

We can’t help it. It’s the way our brain is wired – even to the core of our most inner and animalistic part of our brain: the amygdala (also known as the reptile brain).

But before we exclude ourselves as someone that is labeled as ‘helpless’ in the context of perception and projection, ask yourself what you CAN do to be open for meetings with new people.

Yes, what we perceive is based upon past experiences. But now that you know this, you can make a conscious decision to put aside the prejudice when acquainting with someone you’ve never met before, and start being curious. Curiosity didn’t kill the cat – it gave it more opportunities to explore the world.

If you find yourself projecting or judging someone you don’t know yet – or even someone you do know, and triggers you in their behavior or speech – make a conscious decision (after contacting your coach to work on that trigger) to be as curious as possible to find out more about that person.

Not only will you find that your judgement or projection is inaccurate, you also might find a person that is interesting and worth making a friend, colleague or business partner.

Thirdly, by being curious in an authentic way, the other person will feel you are willing to invest your time in them, and that results in them opening up even more, enabling your contact to be even higher in terms of quality and pleasure.

Whether you decide to feel great or bad about something or someone – you are right. How you perceive is how you project. Both towards yourself as well as to others. Ask yourself: Is this what I’m feeling about (…) really true?

So, perception is projection. Yes – but you always have a choice to decide whether you want to stick to your prejudice or to remain open for the person behind your projection. In the end, that becomes your new perception.

How do you remain open for new people you meet or what are your most common opinions when you meet someone for the first time? Share your comment below.

 

To your succes,

Robert

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Do You Have a Problem?

We all have them – problems, challenges, issues, or whatever you’d want to call them. In fact, we need them to grow and discover more of our own potential. Without problems, there would only be comfort zones.

So what is a problem? Most people would argue problems are obstacles, annoying barricades that seem to rise up at times we least like them to have around.

Problem, Challenge, Issue
I used to soften the word, by calling it a challenge or an issue. ‘No, it’s not a problem – it’s a challenge’. Sometimes this would work, but often times, my mind would just start to argue with me, telling me I’d only fool myself by changing the word, but keeping the meaning.

And here in lies the problem – or challenge of you will 🙂

What is the definition of a problem?

Though I got the best answer from one of my teachers early on at the beginning of my career, I kept on searching for a definition of the word ‘problem’.

It’s mostly the association we have with the word ‘problem’. If you think of a problem, then what do you think of? And how does it make you feel?

I think I could guess. When you thought of a problem, if only for a second, you thought of a situation in which you felt uncomfortable – from slight stress to complete overload. The problem you thought of wasn’t that small, in fact, it seemed bigger now, than before I asked you to think of a problem.

All right, please note that at this time, it would be my advice to do something to create a distance from you and your problem. Shake it off, or even stand up and do some jumping jacks. When you’re done, please come back, I’ll help you resize and redefine your meaning and definition of a problem.

Ok, you’re back? I presume you did shake it off or do something else to put that problem you were thinking of into the far background.

As you could see, it’s the association of the word that gives you the meaning of it, which either supports you or limits you. And if it’s not supporting you, than I’d recommend changing it.

Keeping problems
Though some people might say to drop the word problem as a whole from your dictionary, I would disagree. The word exists, and it’s already fundamentally rooted into your cognitive mind. Trying to erase it would be similar to unlearn the skill of walking. It’s virtually impossible.

Nothing has a meaning…
Instead, change your association of the word, so the meaning of it will change. And if the meaning changes, everything changes. Another great teacher of mine once said ‘Nothing has a meaning, except the meaning you give it’. And boy, was he right.

Changing the association
So how to change your association of the word problem? Well, think of something that you once really wanted to have, but at the time, you didn’t. It doesn’t really matter what exactly you’re thinking of, only that the result is this: you got what you wanted.

Thought about it? Great, let’s do another one. Think of something you wanted to have when you were a bit older. What was it? What kind of feeling did it give you to want it, and evenmore important – what kind of feeling did it give you when you got it?

And how about your teen years? Can you think of something that you wanted then? Of course you can. Just imagine how it was to be a teen, and what kind of things was important to you. You recognize the feeling of missing something – and later on getting it? Great, imagine it to the detail, really step into the feeling of wanting it, and then getting or accomplishing it.

Now do this one more time. Go back just a little bit. To last week, or last month. There was a situation in which you didn’t have the result yet of something you really wanted. A small thing made big, or even a big thing made bigger. You got it? Recognize the feeling when you didn’t have it, and then immediately go to the feeling of when you did get it. A relief, right? Yeah.

What you just did, is making a start of reconditioning your mind to redefine the association to the meaning of the word ‘problem’.

You see – a problem is nothing more that the difference between the situation you’re in right now, and the situation you want to be in. That’s all.

So whenever you find yourself in a situation that you feel you’re missing something that you’d like to have or be in, just remember that you have a problem, and that there will always be a solution to get to the situation you want to be in.

To your success.

Be Grateful

This article is an extract of chapter #2 in Karl Moore’s best-selling book, ‘The 18 Rules of Happiness.’

If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.
– Meister Eckhardt

 

We live in a fast-paced, microwave, drive-thru, Buy-It-Now society.

It’s a society that has forgotten to be truly grateful for the things around it. We only tend to be grateful for things when we no longer have them.

Think of the sense of relief you gain when you just get over an illness, and are so thankful that your turbulent tummy has now settled. Consider how appreciative you are when those tests come back clear. Or when the speeding camera doesn’t flash. Or when you finally find your lost child in the supermarket.

These are the moments in life when we realize how blessed we truly are.

Yet how many of us truly appreciate that on a day-to-day basis?

My guess is very few of us. We only become grateful of things when we think we don’t have them.

But here’s the thing: by counting our blessings every day, in a very literal way, we become happier people. Research across the globe in countless studies has proven this over and over again.

So, when was the last time YOU were truly grateful?

Think of all the wonderful things you have to be grateful for right now. It could be your family. Or your health. Maybe your home. Your friends. Your brain. Your heart. Your spirit. Even your DVD collection.

We’ve all got amazing things in our own lives that make us smile with joy. Things that bring a secret, loving tear to our eyes.

And if we can only learn to count these blessings every day, we’ll discover a true happiness and greater appreciation of the beautiful world we surround ourselves with.

So, if you can, make that part of your daily ritual. Count your blessings, briefly in the morning, and briefly at night. Then smile at the world for sending such great things your way.

Be grateful – and you will be happy.

You Think English Is Easy?

Can you read these right the first time?

  1. The bandage was wound around the wound.
  2. The farm was used to produce produce.
  3. The dump was so full that it had to refuse more refuse.
  4. We must polish the Polish furniture.
  5. He could lead if he would get the lead out.
  6. The soldier decided to desert his dessert in the desert.
  7. Since there is no time like the present, he thought it was time to present the present
  8. A bass was painted on the head of the bass drum.
  9. When shot at, the dove dove into the bushes.
  10. I did not object to the object.
  11. The insurance was invalid for the invalid.
  12. There was a row among the oarsmen about how to row.
  13. They were too close to the door to close it.
  14. The buck does funny things when the does are present.
  15. A seamstress and a sewer  fell down into a sewer line.
  16. To help with planting, the farmer taught his sow to sow..
  17. The wind was too strong to wind the sail.
  18. Upon seeing the tear in the painting, I shed a tear.
  19. I had to subject the subject to a series of tests.
  20. How can I intimate this to my most intimate friend?

Let’s face it – English is a crazy language. There is no egg in eggplant, no ham in hamburger; neither apple nor pine in pineapple.

English muffins weren’t invented in England or French fries in France.

Sweetmeats are candies while sweetbreads, which aren’t sweet, are meat.

We take English for granted, but if we explore its paradoxes, we find that quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square and a guinea pig is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig.

And why is it that writers write, but fingers don’t fing, grocers don’t groce, and hammers don’t ham? If the plural of tooth is teeth, why isn’t the plural of booth, beeth? One goose, 2 geese. So one moose, 2 meese? One index, 2 indices? Doesn’t it seem crazy that you can make amends but not one amend?

If you have a bunch of odds and ends and get rid of all but one of them, what do you call it?

If teachers taught, why didn’t preachers praught? Sometimes I think all the English speakers should be committed to an asylum for the verbally insane.

In what language do people recite at a play and play at a recital?

Ship by truck and send cargo by ship? Have noses that run and feet that smell?

How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same, while a wise man and a wiseguy are opposites? You have to marvel at the unique lunacy of a language in which your house can burn up as it burns down, in which you fill in a form by filling it out and in which, an alarm goes off by going on..

English was invented by people, not computers, and it reflects the creativity of the human race, which, of course, is not a race at all.

That is why, when the stars are out, they are visible, but when the lights are out, they are invisible.

And who came up with the phrase ‘cream of the crop’? Has anyone ever seen a crop of milk?

You lovers of the English language might enjoy this:

There is a two-letter word that perhaps has more meanings than any other two-letter word, and it is UP.

It’s easy to understand UP , meaning toward the sky or at the top of the list, but when we awaken in the morning, why do we wake UP ? At a meeting, why does a topic come UP ? Why do we speak UP

And why are the officers UP for election and why is it UP to the secretary to write UP a report ?

We call UP our friends. And we brighten UP a room and polish UP the silver.  We warm UP the leftovers and clean UP the kitchen.  We lock UP the house and some guys fix UP old cars.

At other times, the little word has a real special meaning. People stir UP trouble, line UP for tickets, work UP an appetite, and think UP excuses. To be dressed is one thing but to be dressed UP is special

And this UP is confusing: A drain must be opened UP because it is stopped UP  We open UP a store in the morning, but we close it UP at night.

We seem to be pretty mixed UP about UP! To be knowledgeable about the proper uses of UP, look the word UP in the dictionary.  In a desk-sized dictionary, it takes UP almost 1/4th of the page and can addUP to about thirty definitions. If you are UP to it, you might try building UP a list of the many waysUP can be used. It will take UP a lot of your time, but if you don’t give UP, you may wind UP with a hundred or more. When it threatens to rain, we say it is clouding UP.

When the sun comes out, we say it is clearing UP.

When it rains, it wets the earth and often messes things UP. When it doesn’t rain for a while, things dry UP.

One could go on and on, but I’ll wrap it UP .

For now, my time is ………UP .

Time to shut UP.

There Will Never Be Another

Of course it’s important to set goals. If it’s up to me, even truly big goals. But I also know that these big goals have a big change to fade out as time goes by, and eventually, even fail. Especially when the New Year comes around, and promises to yourself are made abundantly. But you may find out later that same month that these goals may have been a little bit too opportunistic, so they seem. Time for a different approach…

There will never be another… 2010.

So whatever your hopes or expectancies were for this year, they’re gone. You’ve got a new chance to start planning for 2011.

Blah blah blah!

That’s what everybody’s saying; the bloggers, the commentators, the columnists who can’t find a suitable text for this week. They’re all talking about how we have a new year to plan with whatever we want, me too. But what if this isn’t the best approach, in first instance?

Then I’ve got something else that’s important for you, to take a closer look at, and that’s this:

There will never be another YOU. Ever. Not in this universe, not until the end of days.

You’re unique – there never was another You, and there never will be. You are an original, and only you can decide how you want to live your life.

You can start next year.

Or even tomorrow. Or today even, during lunch. At any given moment we may choose to take control on our personal destiny.

And for that, the new year is a good ‘bookmark’ to start that change.

In that context, I was looking to my own life today. Even though I see myself as a silent en controlled guy and realize that I’ve been here for some years or so, I can still mark the New Year as important moments in my life.

And I can choose to change my world for a better one, by changing myself.

Now, I do have some good experiences with New Year’s resolutions . And if I only kept just a mere 10% of my resolutions, I’d be impossible to deal with! All those resolutions combined together… Brrr!

But with the things I’ve learned about the human brain (even MY OWN), I’m hopeful I can make some small changes in January.

For example, getting up just a little bit earlier each day, and doing some exercises. Just that one small change. For fifteen minutes, maybe. But I’ll do it every working day.

After that I can add another small change, both in a way they become automatized as a habit.

If I’m careful and consistent, I may even choose a new habit every month!

No stress, no revolutionary changes, just small choices – kinda like small deposits in the savings bank.

And when it’s December.. who knows? Do you know what happens with a savings-account if you deposit small amounts of money regularly?

The money on that account receives interest. And the more you deposit on it, the bigger the interest will become.

The same thing works for small – permanent – changes, when they’re added for a whole year.

And when I’m exactly one year further, I’m expecting my  one-of-a-kind life will have the shape and characteristics I’d really like it to be.

I’m inviting you to try it out. And of course big dreams are good and I’m encouraging you to write those down – I guarantee you it will boost your life. But also those small little changes combined together eventually lead to the change you’re looking for. Little changes each month, one on top of the other, until you have a pretty good life.

To our success,

Robert