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Nothing is Impossible

A while a go i was just looking around in my living room, and my eye caught focus on a laminated flyer a friend gave to me some time ago. The flyer shows a beautiful picture of a flying person, underlined with the text ‘Nothing is Impossible’. And then I sarted to think: is that true?

If you look at it from a mathematical perspective, you could state that: Nothing = Impossible. So that means that ‘Nothing’ would be equal to ‘Impossible’, and this is where my mind was getting really interested.

With this statement in mind, it was my brain that took of and went going, looking for answers that would either agree or contradict this statement.

The first question, even before I could answer the main question was ‘Is it possible that Nothing really exists? Though there is a word we use, I honestly cannot imagine that there is such a thing as nothing. Even the space beyond our planet doen’st exist of nothing – though it might seem that way. Millions of small and tiny particles, such as hydrogen, and even electromagnetic radiation. This proves that there’s no nothingness in outer space.

I don’t think ‘Nothing’ can really exist. But still, just based on one argument I don’t think this would make such a profound statement, don’t you?

So what are thoughts made of? Thoughts are really electric pulses coming from your neurons in your brain, which nowadays can even be measured. But the true idea of a thought coming from nowhere is a discussion scientists are still arguing about. Where does a thought come from? And what is the deeper meaning of a thought?

If thoughts come from out of nowhere, that that would prove that ‘nothing’ would be an existence, therefore breaking the statement ‘Nothing = Impossible’ (because if it would, than Thoughts would be impossible, and we know that this is not true). So the true question is ‘Where do thoughts come from?’

After searching the web for a while, the most common answer I got to my question was one that I actually believe can be true.

Let me start from the beginning.

Back in the 19th century scientists were discussing whether or not there was a field, not visible for the naked eye, that connects us all. To prove whether it existed or not and stop the discussion, the famous Michaelson-Morley experiment. Now, this experiment was done in 1887 and the instruments that were used back then weren’t really accurate at that time. What they found was that the field didn’t exist. And this idea was generally accepted for about 100 years.

It wasn’t until 1986 that this experiment was re-done, with better equipment. And what they found out was that this field actually does exist! Scientists now agree on the existence of a unified field that links us all together.

So what does this have to do with ‘nothing = impossible’? Let me explain.

Science today states, there is a unified field linking us all together. And it’s not until now that we start to become aware of what this field really is.

We live in a magnificent time. A time where changes are happening so rapidly – both internal as external – that we are slowly moving towards a consciousness shift. The way we perceive ourselves and others around us is changing on such a profound way, that our actual outer world is being changed by our perceptions.

Take a look at what is going on in the world – Egypt, Libya, and other countries becoming aware of their possibilities and their potential.

Our Earth as well is going through a cycle-shift. Hurricanes, volcano eruptions, landslides. There’s so much going on, it’s hard not to realize things are changing.

People are growing more awareness and with this awareness it’s that we discover that it’s our minds, and moreover our hearths that ‘control’ the outcome of our lives.

It’s a commong saying that ‘if you put your mind into it, you can do virtually anything’ (I remember that in the movie Back to the Future this was also said). Well, it’s not only your mind that you put into it, that make things happen and realize, it’s also your heart. We are now discovering that emotion and feelings are a huge catalyst in manifesting change and reaching goals.

And I think it’s the unified field that we pour out of when we come up with an idea or an emotion to improve our life. Just imagine, what if there is this huge quantum-soup of everything we’re knowing (and not yet knowing) that we can dig into and come up with new thoughts, ideas and concepts to prosper from.

This unified field is a two-way street, and it allows us to receive information from as well as send information to. So whatever you’re thinking or feeling (especially when you do it with an intention), it’s the field that enables your thoughts into manifestation.

Like I said, scientists agree on the existence of this field and most scientists have found name for this field, vaying from ‘The Quantum Hologram’ to ‘The Mind of God’. I think this is what ancient spiritual traditions (known today as religion) meant by ‘God’ – though that is material for yet another article.

With this in mind, we can say that thoughts don’t come out of nowhere, but that they’re accessible from somewhere, showing that on the subject of thoughts, nothing is not there.

It might not be easy to adapt the concept of ‘Nothing is impossible’ (surely you might think of arguments like ‘but we don’t know how to fly or teleport’), but I think that this is only knowledge that we don’t know how to use yet.

Imagine how your life would be if you took in this idea of nothing is impossible. What would you do? How would your life look like?

Think of the wishes you (once) had, and that maybe you put away somewhere deep inside your mind, or even let go of when you were groing up.

Those wishes, those dreams can still be made real.

I came up with a great and short statement that empowers me to fulfill my potential and start living my life the way I want it to be.

This statement is

 

Design your Life

 

I’m convinced that life isn’t run on auto-predestined-pilot. And instead of the external factors controlling our internal life, it’s our internal system that controls our external outcome.

So, as of today, you have the option to re-find your dreams, your wishes and make them a goal and start taking steps towards them.

Why should you do this?

Because ‘Nothing is Impossible’

 

To our success.

Robert

The Potential Me

The 1985 featured film The Breakfast Club tells the story of five high school students who have to do detention on their free Saturday. Each and every one has their own reason to sit this one out and there’s no single common ground that one shares with the others: a sportsman, member of the wrestling team, a nerd who’s a member of the physics club, an outcast that in the eyes of everybody else is lacking every responsibility to make it through school, a prom queen whose only concern is her looks and her rep. And there’s this girl who doesn’t have any contact with her parents or any other person for that matter. The worlds couldn’t be further apart from each other. So it seems…

The true essence of the movie is the insight that each and every one of the five students is behaving according to the perception others have about them. Which brings me to the core of this article. No matter how hard we work, often times we’re being lead on subconsciously in our behavior by the way others see us.

Take a look at your profession or the study you take up. Isn’t that one of the first things you mention when someone asks what you do? ‘I’m a manager’, ‘I’m a coach’, ‘I’m a mother of two.’

The way we present ourselves is mainly determining how others will see us: if I’d say I was a circus-clown the first time we’d meet, you’ll probably label me no different the next time we bump into each other.

With this, a vicious circle is born. No matter what you’ll be doing after you meet somebody new, at the time you shook hands for the first time you left an impression that was going to be burnt into the memory of your listener. ‘Weren’t you that clown that works in the circus?’

The choice to see yourself any way you want will always be there though. Unfortunately we don’t reckon that choice too often. And even if we do, it doesn’t mean that choice is going to be an easy one. Who do you want to be?

Because as soon as you taste the liberty of deciding who you want to be, you’ll also realize that no matter what answer you come up with, it will be a limitation to that freedom.

And this is where quantum physics peeks around the corner.

Over the past few years, scientists carried out an experiment known as the double slit experiment. In this experiment they were looking at the behavior of particles and electrons (tiny bits of matter). They put up two slits through which hey randomly fired the electrons. On the wall behind the slit interference pattern arose, stating the particle was acting like a wave – with several interference patterns, and not like a particle. Scientists were stunned. So, those scientists put up a measuring device, to see through which slit the electron went.

But because they were now measuring, the particle went back to behaving like a particle. The conclusion is this: when they weren’t measuring, the particle was behaving like a wave, showing an interference pattern at the back of the wall. When they did measure its path and choice of slit, the particle changed back to a normal particle, just showing two bands at the back of the wall. Somehow the particle knew it was being watched.

There’s an ocean of possibilities when the particle leaves. And as long as we don’t interfere with it, we see the results of that sea of possibilities; the particle goes through one slit, and the other. It goes through both slits, and through neither. How’s this possible?

The answer is not to be found in the particle. Nor is it in the slit. What is?

It’s the observer.

The way you see the world determines how you’ll experience it.

And that also works for other people observing you. They create a model of you (a simplified representation of their reality), which they can use again, and again in future encounters with you. The more frequent they’ll see you in the same setting, the stronger that model becomes and with that the representation or map of the world, of you!

This is how models can affect you, as well as the world big time.

‘Well, damn man!’, you might think right now. ‘Isn’t there anything I can do to influence this all?’ – there is!

At each and every single moment of the day, you hold the power of ho you want to be. Or better said: who you want to be more.

Like in The Breakfast Club, you can see that every single detentionist has more in common with the others than he or she might think. The outcast is also the nerd, the sportsman is also the closed up girl. And they all have a prom queenside.

You’re also more than the label others put on you. Or… you put on yourself.

But how do you change he perception of other people so they don’t see you as just a circus artist?

In all honesty, I have to confess I’m not sure if I can give you an answer. I’m not even sure if that’s possible. The freedom of choice of others to see you as they want is not up to you; it’s up to them.

However, what you can do is change the way y08 perceive yourself. Y0ur map of the world you hold about you is like a dropping snowflake hitting the ground, and starting to roll onto a snowball, perhaps even an avalanche. It’s the essence of change. If you change the way you see yourself, you’ll behave differently and people will see you differently for that.

During one of my first trainings on personal development my coach told me that each part of a system is influencing the other parts of the system. So if you change one part of that system, you’ll end up changing the entire system.

What he meant by that is that when you start working on yourself – e.g. by changing your behavior or altering current limiting beliefs – you’ll slowly but surely change the interaction you have with others (like family, friends, acquaintances, relationships) as well.

For years people saw me as the guy that never would say ‘no’. The one that would go along with everybody, no matter what the flow was. The guy with no borders. The Pleaser. I noticed that in the end it had cost me so much, it made me miserable.

Instead of pointing out the people that could be responsible for exceeding my borders (‘they shouldn’t be crossing them if I don’t feel okay with that’) and seeing myself as a victim of the perception of others, I discovered that this responsibility, this power, was in no other than my own hands.

Now, we’ve moved on a couple of years and I’ve straitened and strengthened my backbone quite a bit. It’s not yet ‘full on’, but I’m getting there. And for certain I’ve become a stronger person. With this change something else changed, and that is the way other people see me. ‘Robert – he’s persisting, a dreamer, a doer, doesn’t take no for an answer.’

And so there are many areas in my life in which I can laser focus on to make the changes within in order to grow. To become the person I really want to be.

It begins with letting go of the labels I’ve put on myself of which I think I need them to survive. You might know this phenomenon as the word image. Whenever you’re willing to let go of your image, you’ll discover your true ‘me’. From there on you can decide which adjustment you’d like to make in order to become the person you really want to be.

Just like in quantum physics, there’s an ocean of possibilities in front of you (and within you) that allows you to live your life exactly the way you want it.

Mahatma Gandhi once said:

“Your beliefs become your thoughts.
 Your thoughts become your words.
Your words become your actions.
Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values.
Your values become your destiny.”

With that he underlines the freedom, the power and the possibilities of change.

To our success,

Robert

 

Dream On

In the film ‘Inception’ Leonardo DiCaprio plays Dom Cobb, a guy who steals valuable and secret information from someone’s mind by getting into their dreams and influences the way they behave in that dream. To make things even more complicated, Dom is challenged to infiltrate deep into the mind of the subject, and the way he’s doing this is to create several layers of dreams in which he can manipulate the subject’s subconscious: A dream within a dream within a dream.

Now that got me thinking. How do you know when you’re dreaming and when you’re actually awake? I mean, when you’re dreaming, you’re vividly imagining the things in your dream (people, animals, buildings) to be real.

They’re so alive, that even your body responds to your mind’s subconscious freestyles: your repertory rises, your blood pressure either drops or increases, you might even wake up sweaty and all, realizing that you’ve just been dreaming so vividly, you’d swear it was real.

Science today now researches the similarities and the differences between what we think is real and what is fiction. If there’s a gap, then how big is it, and if there isn’t, then what would that mean for our personal lives, our relationships, our careers, our health, and in the end, our total view of life itself?

With the new sciences of quantum physics and string theory, we’re now investigating on bot a micro-level as well as on a macro-level how we can shape our life exactly the way we want it.

You see, here’s the thing about those new sciences:

They say that your mind is the catalyst of everything happening in your world. In other words: whatever you focus on in your mind, you’ll find outside of it.

Now this may sounds like a quote from a hippy, but the interesting thing is that we’ve got so many proof of it, we can’t deny it.

Think back of this: you probably remember a time in which you were madly in love with someone. That beauty and you were so over each other, the world seemed to vanish when you two were together. And perhaps you even went out for a romantic dinner at one point, and with the pleasure of a nice wine and the staring of each others twinkles in both your eyes, you heard the sweeping notes of a tune that would remember you that moment for the rest of your life.

As time passed by, you and your beloved shared some good moments, some bad, and possibly even some rocky ones. And if you’re one of those fortunate people who had the privilege to make a giant leap in your personal development from this last one, you might remember the moment after your break-up in which you heard nothing but that one particular song, that would remind you of those good, bad and rocky moments you had with your love.

Everywhere you’d go, you’d here that song, putting its musical fingers on the sore spot of your heart, triggering memories and feelings you rather leave in the past.

You remember that feeling? All right, so let’s step out of that now, because it’s more of an example to point out what I’m about to say, than to get you sad and depressed.

So take a deep breath in, firmly breath out and with every breath you clap your hands together saying the word CHANGE out loud. If you do this three times, a state change will happen and your focus is here on the digital paper.

Now your mind was so powerful just now, it reconstructed part of your memory. With pictures and emotions, leaving no detail unseen. But the most interesting thing is this:

The focus you had on the song at the time you made the connection in your subconscious was so strong, that it created an a powerful anchor that made you hear that same song everywhere you’d go after that break up. Why?

Because that’s what you were looking for!

Our mind sees, hears and feels what it focuses on. And with nearly 4 billion bits of information coming in every second, and being able to ‘only’ process about 3 million of then, your mind filters out the pieces that aren’t necessary to perceive.

With this said, we can establish that your mind works like a homing pigeon. It goes straightly for its objective, neglecting the pieces of the environment that aren’t important.

You’re with me so far? Okay, let’s get back to the dreaming.

When we’re in a dream state, our subconscious mind creates a world so exquisite, it resembles the ‘real’ world, as we know it consciously perfectly. Every detail that is important to dream about is filled in by your subconscious mind, as you slowly go deeper into your dream.

Time doesn’t seem to exist, and if it does, then it definitely runs slower in your dreams than it does in real life: you can have an adventure from A to Z in just ten minutes!

When we’re asleep, we can create anything and everything we want.

So how would that be if we’d be able to do the same thing when we’re awake?

If we focus on the things that are important to us and we are automatically attracted towards it like a homing pigeon, then what should we be thinking about in order to upgrade the areas of our life a couple levels?

How would you want your financial situation to be? Or the relationships with your spouse? What kind of job would you have, in order to be in that state of happiness and fulfillment constantly?

It’s as if you take a blank piece of paper and a set of colorful pencils to draw your ideal life. How cool’s that?

You see, you can have the life you really want. Without all the restrictions that otherwise would hold you back in ‘normal’ life.

Now I don’t want to sound like a hippy, and proclaim that with just a thought you can change the world, but you must realize that this is where it starts. You change your outer world by changing your inner world.

So… think about how you want your ideal life to look like. Or better yet, dream about it.

To our success,

Robert

 

How to Feel Bad and Like it

by my good friend Nisandeh Neta.

 

A trusted therapist I know said to me a few days ago:

“I think that many people who are suffering feel considerably worse simply because they’re suffering.”

“What?”

“Well, we fear feeling badly. We feel out of control when we’re depressed or anxious. We then struggle internally. How can we ‘fix” this? How can we make this go away? When we can’t, on top of feeling depressed or anxious, we feel like losers.”

It got me thinking: how could you embrace feeling badly instead of running from it?

1. Have a Dark Day. Instead of trying to “lift yourself up by your bootstraps” (which seems impossible anyway, doesn’t it?), create a day based on how badly you are feeling. Do it up right. Eat dark food, drink dark teas. Play the saddest movie ever known and cry unabashedly. When people ask you how you’re doing, say “Not good.” Feel the freedom in being honest with the space you’re in.

2. Make your Goal List Easy. In this day and age, we’re often overwhelmed by the things that need done in one day. And then we have long-term goals looming overhead. Why not make it a list that a child could do? Include: “Talk to as few people as possible today.” “Wash and dry my favorite blanket then hide under it.” “Watch an episode of an old TV show.”

3. Dig a Little Deeper. Most of us think that the problems we’re suffering are based on what’s happening now. Allow yourself the freedom to look into your past, as if you’re strolling down a very familiar lane. No need to painfully revisit it; simply stop and look at your past like an old movie. Make a few quiet observations. Include good times too.

4. Play in the Dark. Think of the Addams Family. They had fun with their dark side. What can you wear today that showcases your misery? What depressing songs can you sing? Could you draw a sketch of that sad you, overamplified and cartoonish? What we resist persists. Today, embrace it, draw from it!

 

You Think English Is Easy?

Can you read these right the first time?

  1. The bandage was wound around the wound.
  2. The farm was used to produce produce.
  3. The dump was so full that it had to refuse more refuse.
  4. We must polish the Polish furniture.
  5. He could lead if he would get the lead out.
  6. The soldier decided to desert his dessert in the desert.
  7. Since there is no time like the present, he thought it was time to present the present
  8. A bass was painted on the head of the bass drum.
  9. When shot at, the dove dove into the bushes.
  10. I did not object to the object.
  11. The insurance was invalid for the invalid.
  12. There was a row among the oarsmen about how to row.
  13. They were too close to the door to close it.
  14. The buck does funny things when the does are present.
  15. A seamstress and a sewer  fell down into a sewer line.
  16. To help with planting, the farmer taught his sow to sow..
  17. The wind was too strong to wind the sail.
  18. Upon seeing the tear in the painting, I shed a tear.
  19. I had to subject the subject to a series of tests.
  20. How can I intimate this to my most intimate friend?

Let’s face it – English is a crazy language. There is no egg in eggplant, no ham in hamburger; neither apple nor pine in pineapple.

English muffins weren’t invented in England or French fries in France.

Sweetmeats are candies while sweetbreads, which aren’t sweet, are meat.

We take English for granted, but if we explore its paradoxes, we find that quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square and a guinea pig is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig.

And why is it that writers write, but fingers don’t fing, grocers don’t groce, and hammers don’t ham? If the plural of tooth is teeth, why isn’t the plural of booth, beeth? One goose, 2 geese. So one moose, 2 meese? One index, 2 indices? Doesn’t it seem crazy that you can make amends but not one amend?

If you have a bunch of odds and ends and get rid of all but one of them, what do you call it?

If teachers taught, why didn’t preachers praught? Sometimes I think all the English speakers should be committed to an asylum for the verbally insane.

In what language do people recite at a play and play at a recital?

Ship by truck and send cargo by ship? Have noses that run and feet that smell?

How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same, while a wise man and a wiseguy are opposites? You have to marvel at the unique lunacy of a language in which your house can burn up as it burns down, in which you fill in a form by filling it out and in which, an alarm goes off by going on..

English was invented by people, not computers, and it reflects the creativity of the human race, which, of course, is not a race at all.

That is why, when the stars are out, they are visible, but when the lights are out, they are invisible.

And who came up with the phrase ‘cream of the crop’? Has anyone ever seen a crop of milk?

You lovers of the English language might enjoy this:

There is a two-letter word that perhaps has more meanings than any other two-letter word, and it is UP.

It’s easy to understand UP , meaning toward the sky or at the top of the list, but when we awaken in the morning, why do we wake UP ? At a meeting, why does a topic come UP ? Why do we speak UP

And why are the officers UP for election and why is it UP to the secretary to write UP a report ?

We call UP our friends. And we brighten UP a room and polish UP the silver.  We warm UP the leftovers and clean UP the kitchen.  We lock UP the house and some guys fix UP old cars.

At other times, the little word has a real special meaning. People stir UP trouble, line UP for tickets, work UP an appetite, and think UP excuses. To be dressed is one thing but to be dressed UP is special

And this UP is confusing: A drain must be opened UP because it is stopped UP  We open UP a store in the morning, but we close it UP at night.

We seem to be pretty mixed UP about UP! To be knowledgeable about the proper uses of UP, look the word UP in the dictionary.  In a desk-sized dictionary, it takes UP almost 1/4th of the page and can addUP to about thirty definitions. If you are UP to it, you might try building UP a list of the many waysUP can be used. It will take UP a lot of your time, but if you don’t give UP, you may wind UP with a hundred or more. When it threatens to rain, we say it is clouding UP.

When the sun comes out, we say it is clearing UP.

When it rains, it wets the earth and often messes things UP. When it doesn’t rain for a while, things dry UP.

One could go on and on, but I’ll wrap it UP .

For now, my time is ………UP .

Time to shut UP.

There Will Never Be Another

Of course it’s important to set goals. If it’s up to me, even truly big goals. But I also know that these big goals have a big change to fade out as time goes by, and eventually, even fail. Especially when the New Year comes around, and promises to yourself are made abundantly. But you may find out later that same month that these goals may have been a little bit too opportunistic, so they seem. Time for a different approach…

There will never be another… 2010.

So whatever your hopes or expectancies were for this year, they’re gone. You’ve got a new chance to start planning for 2011.

Blah blah blah!

That’s what everybody’s saying; the bloggers, the commentators, the columnists who can’t find a suitable text for this week. They’re all talking about how we have a new year to plan with whatever we want, me too. But what if this isn’t the best approach, in first instance?

Then I’ve got something else that’s important for you, to take a closer look at, and that’s this:

There will never be another YOU. Ever. Not in this universe, not until the end of days.

You’re unique – there never was another You, and there never will be. You are an original, and only you can decide how you want to live your life.

You can start next year.

Or even tomorrow. Or today even, during lunch. At any given moment we may choose to take control on our personal destiny.

And for that, the new year is a good ‘bookmark’ to start that change.

In that context, I was looking to my own life today. Even though I see myself as a silent en controlled guy and realize that I’ve been here for some years or so, I can still mark the New Year as important moments in my life.

And I can choose to change my world for a better one, by changing myself.

Now, I do have some good experiences with New Year’s resolutions . And if I only kept just a mere 10% of my resolutions, I’d be impossible to deal with! All those resolutions combined together… Brrr!

But with the things I’ve learned about the human brain (even MY OWN), I’m hopeful I can make some small changes in January.

For example, getting up just a little bit earlier each day, and doing some exercises. Just that one small change. For fifteen minutes, maybe. But I’ll do it every working day.

After that I can add another small change, both in a way they become automatized as a habit.

If I’m careful and consistent, I may even choose a new habit every month!

No stress, no revolutionary changes, just small choices – kinda like small deposits in the savings bank.

And when it’s December.. who knows? Do you know what happens with a savings-account if you deposit small amounts of money regularly?

The money on that account receives interest. And the more you deposit on it, the bigger the interest will become.

The same thing works for small – permanent – changes, when they’re added for a whole year.

And when I’m exactly one year further, I’m expecting my  one-of-a-kind life will have the shape and characteristics I’d really like it to be.

I’m inviting you to try it out. And of course big dreams are good and I’m encouraging you to write those down – I guarantee you it will boost your life. But also those small little changes combined together eventually lead to the change you’re looking for. Little changes each month, one on top of the other, until you have a pretty good life.

To our success,

Robert